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First dates are nothing short or nerve-wracking. After you choose the perfect time, place and outfit, you get to set foot into the real deal. It’s not always easy to keep things lively with conversation so hopefully this will help alleviate some of those nerves by preparing you to overcome the awkward silences
Being back in the dating game is kind of scary. Ok, really scary. A big fear of mine is awkward silence. Those are the worst, especially if you really don’t know the person with you.
Advice. Read this and prepare for counter questions.
These questions can honestly be used for any date. It doesn’t just apply to first dates. Even if you’ve been together forever, it’s never too late to learn something new about your person. Keep your questions open ended. Avoid yes or no answers.
No matter how nervous you get, remember to actually listen to this person. Actually listening and showing interest in what a person says is huge. Nobody wants to feel unheard.
Pick and choose some questions you want to ask. Some of these are pretty straightforward. I am a pretty straightforward person so they fit my personality pretty well. If you wouldn’t feel comfortable asking a question or getting an answer to one of these, leave it out. Always be yourself.
Below, I have compiled a list of my favorite questions to get to know the person you’ve agreed to go on a date with. Keep in mind, this is a date and not an interview. Like I said, maybe find a couple questions that you can ask if there is a bit of awkward silence and find ways to keep the conversation flowing. Remember, you both like something about each other or you wouldn’t be here in the first place. Always be yourself, but have some fun. Laugh and don’t think too hard.
- What is something you’ve always wanted to try but never had an opportunity?
- If you could pick a superpower, what would it be and how would you use it?
- If you could go see a concert today, who would you see?
- What is your soul music? Go to music genre?
- If you won the lottery tomorrow, what would be the first thing you’d buy?
- Do you have a bucket list? How many things have you actually done from that list?
- Mountains or ocean?
- What is your happy place?
- Do you believe in ghosts or aliens?
- Would you ever stay the night in a haunted house/hotel?
- How many tattoos do you have?
- Who is your celebrity crush?
- What was your first job?
- What is your ideal date?
- How do you deal with stress/anger?
- Have you ever been arrested?
- What is your favorite drink?
- Are you a conspiracy theorist?
- What type of movie/show are you into?
- How jealous are you on a scale from 0-psycho?
- Do you let your past relationships affect new ones?
- What is your biggest pet peeve?
- Do you like to cook?
- What is your type?
- Do you believe in soul mates or love at first sight?
- What red flags do you look for in dating?
- Are you an introvert or extrovert?
- What 3 words would you use to best describe yourself?
- What about your favorite holiday makes it your favorite holiday?
- If you could choose a time frame to live in, when would it be and why?
- What’s the scariest thing you’ve ever done?
- Are you or have you ever been addicted to anything?
- What is the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?
- Cats or dogs?
- If you were forced to enter a talent show, what would your talent be?
- What are your thoughts on Zodiac?
- Do you snore?
- What’s your worst habit?
- What do you like to do on your days off?
- Are you a planner or more spontaneous?
In contrast to things you can ask as opposed to what you probably shouldn’t on a first date
They say don’t talk politics on a first date. You’re there to get to know the other person, not have a debate. Politics is a huge part of who I am so I test the waters with this category.
It’s never a good idea to talk about past relationships on a date. I have actually ended relationships because there was too much talk of past relationships. This is a time for a new beginning, burn those old bridges.
Laugh and enjoy each other’s company
Always,
Kerri
