Nights Are CHAOTIC (But They Don’t Have to Be)
Okay, let’s get this out in the open: if your idea of a nighttime routine is collapsing into bed after scrolling TikTok for 45 minutes while your laundry silently judges you from across the room… you’re not alone. 🙋♀️
The problem? Most of us are trying to go from chaos to calm without a solid game plan. That’s where a simple nighttime routine you’ll actually stick to comes in—and I’m here to help you build one that doesn’t involve 27 products or waking up at 4 a.m. to journal by candlelight.
But hear me out — building a simple nighttime routine isn’t just doable, it can also be the most peaceful part of your day. I list some real, relaxing habits in here that help you wind down, sleep better, and wake up feeling slightly less like a zombie.
So grab your fuzzy socks, a cup of tea (or glass of wine, I don’t judge), and let’s design your dreamy bedtime ritual.
Why a Nighttime Routine Matters (Like, A Lot)
Here’s the deal: having a consistent evening routine helps your brain recognize it’s time to chill. When you do the same few things each night, your body starts saying, “Oh! It’s bedtime soon.” That means better sleep, less stress, and a smoother start to your tomorrow.
Think of your evening routine as your brain’s signal to say, “Hey, it’s time to shut it down.”
Here’s what a simple bedtime routine can do for you:
- Reduce stress and anxiety
- Improve your sleep quality
- Help you wake up feeling like a functional human
- Create a little pocket of you time (hello, self-care)
And no, you don’t need to be a morning person to enjoy the benefits.
How to Build a Nighttime Routine You’ll Actually Stick To
Let’s break it down step-by-step. Because if it’s not easy, it’s not happening — am I right?
1. Set a Realistic Wind-Down Time 🕗
Start by choosing a time to start winding down. Not your bedtime—your pre-bedtime.
Why it works: Our bodies thrive on routine. If you consistently start relaxing at 9 p.m., your brain gets the memo: “We’re shutting it down, folks.”
You don’t have to be in bed by 9 p.m. (unless you want to!), but pick a window that works for your life — and aim to start winding down about 30-60 minutes before.
Bonus points if you set a “get ready for bed” alarm on your phone!
2. Ditch the Doom Scroll 🚫📱
I get it — you just want to check one more reel. But that blue light that comes from phones, TVs, and laptops actually messes with your melatonin levels and tricks your brain into thinking it’s daytime.
Simple screen rule: No screens 30–60 minutes before bed. Instead:
- Read a book (nothing too suspenseful unless you want to be up till 2)
- Listen to a chill podcast
- Do some light stretching
3. Try a 3-Step Skincare Ritual 💧
No, you don’t need a 12-step skincare routine unless that’s what you really want. This is about intentional winding down, not perfection.
Some simple self-care before bed ideas:
- Wash your face and moisturize
- Sip herbal tea or warm milk (old school but effective!)
- Write 3 things you’re grateful for
- Do a 5-minute meditation (apps like Insight Timer are great!)
Remember: You’re not trying to become a glowing moon goddess overnight—you’re just taking care of yourself a little more than yesterday.
Pro tip: Keep it all in one cute basket by your sink so it’s easy to grab and go.
4. Create a “Goodnight Reset” Habit 🛏️
A clear mind = better sleep. Take 5–10 minutes tonight to set yourself up for a smoother morning.
Pick one small thing to reset your space for tomorrow. Whether it’s tidying the living room or setting the coffee maker. You’ll feel 10x more on top of your game in the morning
Try this:
- Lay out your clothes
- Make a to-do list
- Pack lunches or bags for the next day
Doing this regularly helps your brain say, “Phew. We’ve got this.”
5. Do Something That Feeds You 💜
This is the magic ingredient. Do something that fills your cup — literally or figuratively.
- Get a glass of herbal tea
- Do 5 minutes of journaling
- Say a calming prayer
- Use a meditation app.
Doesn’t need to be fancy, just needs to make you feel good.
A Sample Nighttime Routine You Can Totally Steal 🫶
Here’s a realistic and simple example for busy women and moms:
Set the times to what makes the most sense for you
9:00 p.m. – Set your phone to Do Not Disturb, dim the lights
9:15 p.m. – Quick skincare, brush teeth, change into cozy PJs
9:30 p.m. – Read or journal with a cup of tea
9:50 p.m. – Prep for tomorrow (to-do list, outfit, etc.)
10:00 p.m. – In bed with calming music or white noise
10:15 p.m. – Lights out, sleep tight 💤
That’s it! Short, sweet, and totally doable. (And yes, it still works if you’re a night owl!)
Final Thoughts: Give Yourself Grace
Listen, building a nighttime routine doesn’t mean it has to look the same every single night. Life happens. Sometimes the kids need you, sometimes you fall asleep watching Netflix, and sometimes you just can’t.
The goal is progress, not perfection.
Start small, stay consistent-ish, and keep showing up for yourself—even if it’s just washing your face and lighting a candle. That counts.
So light that candle, throw on your fluffiest robe, and give yourself the gift of a peaceful evening. You’ve earned it. 🌙✨
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Always,
Kerri
